The way I see it is, having privilege doesn't make you (general you here) bad. Straight-cis-white-regularly abled-comfortable financially-men didn't choose it, any more than I chose to be born an asexual-cis-white-regularly abled-comfortable finacially-woman.
Even ignoring and not recognizing their privilege and Not Getting It in general isn't necessarily them being bad. It's part of the privilege that they have trouble grasping it. Even if they refuse to try to grasp it, they can still be decent people, so long as the topic at hand doesn't relate to privilege. Granted, when the subject turns to something like they, they tend to make asses out of themselves, but they're still the people who hug you when you need it, and hang out with you, and do fun shit that's got no point other than being fun.
Also, your brothers sound awesome. Mine never let me have a sword. He just made me play football and street hockey with his friends. Though I was a pretty kick-ass goalie, if I do say so myself.
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Even ignoring and not recognizing their privilege and Not Getting It in general isn't necessarily them being bad. It's part of the privilege that they have trouble grasping it. Even if they refuse to try to grasp it, they can still be decent people, so long as the topic at hand doesn't relate to privilege. Granted, when the subject turns to something like they, they tend to make asses out of themselves, but they're still the people who hug you when you need it, and hang out with you, and do fun shit that's got no point other than being fun.
Also, your brothers sound awesome. Mine never let me have a sword. He just made me play football and street hockey with his friends. Though I was a pretty kick-ass goalie, if I do say so myself.